Do we see how generalizing is causing the alienation of a group. Do we understand that this is not going to help anyone. Do we understand that THIS IS NOT HOW YOU GO ABOUT CHANGING THE WORLD FOR THE BETTER.
What does someone have to do to not be evil in your eyes? Someone can be the best ally ever and they will still get hate for being cishet.
Stop fighting fire with fire.
Sexuality and gender identity (or lack of either, or both) can’t determine whether or not someone is a decent human being, or if they understand oppression. This is so sad.
I’ve unfollowed so many people in the last few weeks. Im at the point where I follow very few “personal” blogs and mostly follow music blogs. That initially why I started posting here, and that’s the only reason why I’ll stick around.
So tired of social justice nonsense. Everything has become so skewed.
Ugh, seriously. If you look at me and think I’m part of the problem just because of color or orientation, just go away. Inform me, don’t attack me, etc.
god forbid a transperson get angry at their oppressors. boo hoo, someone said something “mean” about you on the internet. 1 in 12 transpeople are murdered i think that’s enough reason to be angry. (or 1 in 8 if you’re a twoc)
(although the concept of cis is bullshit seeing as how “cis privilege” means nothing to women; “”“cis”“” women do not have any privilege since, y’know, we’re attacked and murdered and objectified all over the damn place and being born a woman in any case does not hold any sort of privilege)
and yeah education is the answer, but god fucking dammit, denying someone anger for being an oppressed group because your feelings are a teensy bit hurt (they probably aren’t even hurt, you’re more likely just annoyed about a very inconsequential matter to you) is fucking dumb and shows how much of a privileged asshole you are (and really that privilege only applies to males born male since that’s where the socioeconomic privilege lies)
Hello, I am the OP’s roommate and a member of the trans* community.
You seem to be under the impression that standing up against being aggressive towards people is equal to denying someone the right to be upset and angry. While I guess I could understand how you would come to that conclusion, if I really try hard enough, you’re unfortunately mistaken.
Everybody has the right to be angry and upset at the individuals who hurt them, whether it is their feelings or their physical being. When I say everybody, I really do mean everyone. No matter who you are or what group of people you’re in, if someone upsets you or harms you, you have the right to be upset about it.
Here’s where I think you misunderstood the point of the post: Using your anger and hurt to justify being rude and blatantly hateful to other people. I, just like much of the transgender and nonbinary population, often have a lot of anger and sadness pent up inside me due to the unfair treatment I get from individuals who don’t respect me as a transgender person who is different from them, and has different beliefs and views. However, I realize that a more productive way of coping with being upset would be to use that passion that I have to further educate those who are ignorant and uneducated enough to act horribly to those they do not understand. Instead of calling an ally a horrible ally for making a mistake like fumbling with my gender pronoun preference more than once or misspeaking for me, I continue to help them learn more about how to properly stand up for me and continue to remind them about my pronoun preference.
Being hateful and a rude person to people will not make your sadness and anger and hurt go away. Neither, necessarily, will doing what I have just stated. The difference is that using your unfortunate experiences to help educate others on why our rights and voices are just as important as everyone else’s voice is a healthier way to channel that energy, and benefits you more in the long run than just complaining about how a certain general group of people suck, don’t understand, and telling them to kill themselves and that they are worthless scum.
I hope I cleared that up for you, and I apologize if my roommate somehow made it seem like she was trying to tell you that you had no right to be angry, because that is not what she meant at all.